Seeing that others experience similar pain helps us realize that we are not alone in our struggles. We are all human. We can feel a sense of compassion and acceptance for ourselves and others.
For me, it was also important to realize that I am not special or separate in my pain: I had a lot of the woundedness that told me "it's just me and no one understands my pain" yet then healing that and realizing that's not true. It's humbling but liberating because it helped take me out of being in a small self-centered bubble.
I do share my vulnerabilities when it feels right and purposeful. But I no longer intend to create bonds out of pain. I did that a lot in my past and those experiences helped me understand things deeper, especially in how it kept me and others under tight limits because the agreement was that in order to keep that relationship we have to keep ourselves in the pain that bonded us.
So sharing and exposing my pain, yes, and that can feel scary yet it also connects me to my integrity (heart). And when I do that, it supports me to heal and go beyond the pain.
I've allowed it to come out into the air and live - then because of that, I can then allow it to leave.
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Leela Haris - Expanding Consciousness