“Words have Energy” This is very true, and I’ve discovered that it’s not just the words by themselves but the energy that comes through them from the one who expresses them.
The exact same statement made by two different people can have a very different meaning and essence (or even when said at different times by the same person).
For example: Let’s say that I have triggered anger in two people and they both express to me “I’m angry”
“I’m angry” Person #1
This person says they are angry because they are just honestly expressing the truth of what they are experiencing. This one is rare but one I like to receive, because it is honest, courageous, and vulnerable even if it challenges me. They are allowing their anger, exploring it, letting it live, taking kind care of it. They are honoring themselves. They are not trying to manipulate or harm or blame with it. This can even result in me feeling a flowing of compassion towards them.
“I’m angry Person ” #2
This person’s “I’m angry” is very different. It can energetically feel to me something similar to a stab in my heart or being hit with an object. I might suddenly have negative thoughts out of nowhere. I might feel weak or drained. This person is blaming me, judging me, or even feeling hatred towards me at that moment. They are making me responsible for their feelings. This person is unwilling or unable to honor or care for themselves in that experience. They may even carry self-hatred or shame and therefore project that on me instead of finding a way to get support or help themselves. They may even tell me “I’m just expressing my truth” but I can feel inside myself whether that’s the intent or not.
So same statement, but two very different worlds happening behind them! I separated these into two categories but in reality it could be a mix of the two and could contain many things. For example on #2 I might sense that the person believes they are not free to live as they choose and are angry at me for living in a way they believe they aren’t capable of (which is not ultimately true, but related to limiting beliefs they carry).
Another example: “I love you”
“I love you” #1
The person is saying this as a spontaneous sharing of the love that is arising for them in that moment. It’s not said with unconscious unspoken expectations (this can be vulnerable for them since the person hearing them may not share the same feeling or may reject it)
“I love you” #2
This person may say “I love you” but it might just be said out of habit (i’ve been working on this one myself) or because it’s expected. or because they want to hear it from the other. They may be needing attention and love rather than actually feeling that love within themselves. It might be loaded with pain, craving, or even demand. This can feel heavy or draining.
These are just examples and it could easily have a bit of both: sincerity/honesty and expectation/dishonesty.
I notice that if I have a strong attachment or association with certain words I can miss the energy and intention they come from (my mind/emotions getting in the way).
I’ve been very much exploring these things first and always in myself. I only know the "people" in these examples because I have been them too.
It's been fulfilling and heart-expanding though as I step out of the inauthentic patterning of my past to more truthful, grounded, and self-responsible expressions in the here & now.
This a big topic and I've only just scratched the surface here, but what's your experience with this?
Would love to receive it in the comments.
,Creating a better world that allows our human potential to thrive has to involve making the world kinder for children.
In order to make the world a kinder place for children we must first become aware of what harms them.
In order to become aware of what harms them, we must first become aware of how we adults have been manipulated and harmed.
One of the biggest problems globally is the epidemic of child abuse. More specifically massive pedophilia and sex trafficking kept in place by those in the highest positions of power. Politics and Religious organizations are two major things keeping this in place.
While millions are embroiled in and distracted by sensationalism around Trump, the real harm continues by those presenting their "nice" faces and telling people what they want to hear and playing out the noble good guy/woman facade. The Obamas, the Clintons, The Pope, Joe Biden (I have to mention him since he is running) - just a few examples of people knowingly involved in enslavement and sex trafficking of children.
Many many children are being traumatized everyday. They are used like objects to be bartered and passed around and god knows what else.
There are many people involved in this. With varying levels of willingness.
I am not trying to bring anyone down or pull you into negativity. If you are confused at any time by why I'm saying all this, re-read my first 3 statements.
This may be new or not new to you. But the information is out there and evident for anyone willing to see it. If you want proof you can do your own research and decide for yourself. There is no shortage of people speaking out about this.
Now, here is something important I want to say regarding all this:
It's not about blame or retaliation. It's about awareness. The harm and abuse and those that are most benefiting from it, yes this needs to be exposed before anything significant can change. There does need to be protection put in place so abusers cannot continue to abuse and consequences for those perpetuating this.
But if it's done from a place of wanting to punish out of retaliation, it will just continue the unconsciousness. As I see it "evil" is just an extreme form of unconsciousness. Many say that there are beings of evil that cannot heal or rehabilitate. I disagree. It's not that it's impossible to heal or change, it's just that some are just so invested in violence and deep in hatred and darkness that they do not want to change. For each being it has to be a choice to heal and change. No one can heal or rehabilitate another if they do not want it. I think the mistake that people can make is assuming everyone wants the same things. You have to see people for where they are and not what you want them to be.
Another thing to consider, above I said there is various willingness from those who participate in the abuse. What I mean by that is that some people deep down would like to leave that world of abuse but feel they cannot. They perceive themselves to be trapped there. They have grown up being severely abused and threatened and may have been forced or pushed into abusing others. They are convinced they are bad people not realizing that it was setup that way to keep them tethered and unable to break free.
This is how the cycle continues.
So forgiveness and compassion with eyes open has to be part of all this. Also, we each have dark and light within us. Those that have not seen, faced, and healed enough of their own inner trauma and darkness will either not see it when it's right in front of them or they will just want violence against those involved.
There is a lot of light on this planet. And it is growing.
I've said this before, but I think its worth mentioning again and again..
The thing is, as the light grows, it exposes the darkness. This happens within us personally and is playing out on the world stage.
Many are saying no to any conspiracies, they don't want to hear it. And it's your right to choose what information and views you want to be open to. This can be needed even in order to help yourself adjust to the changes you may already be going through.
But I've often heard the phrase "conspiracy theorist" in a derogatory way. It can even have a lot of animosity and aggression in how it's used. People can conveniently dismiss a perspective or someone as "crazy" so as not to acknowledge discomfort or have to self-reflect.
Personally, these days, I have been taken in less information about what's happening in the world. Right now, I'm exploring myself and going deeper within my own experience and intuition.
If I need to know something I trust my intuition will alert me.
But I'm personally grateful for all the out-of-the-box content I've come across over the years. I also like seeing all the perspectives and rebels in my newsfeed. Especially glad for those that stick their necks out to shake up the status quo.
Over the years some of the information I've come across has shocked me, some of it disturbed me, some of it I had no idea what to do with or no way to prove or disprove.
By noticing my triggers and reactions to outside information, it's helped me do several things:
- See through my conditionings and naiveness
- Loosen dependency and trust in systems outside of myself
- Acknowledge, face, and transcend a lot of fear of dark things
- Discern between believing (or not believing) and knowing
- Trust myself and navigate from a deeper more intelligent sense in me than my intellect (the contrasting perspectives, often very extreme differences in views, were so confusing, it forced me to let go of my mind).
So we can choose to take in information or not. We can agree or not.
But I don't like any call for censorship of ideas. I don't care how noble the agenda seems. In fact, if there's ever a time to allow for everyone to have their perspectives and to explore possibilities, I think it is now.
True knowing is more likely to arise within an atmosphere of freedom and exploration.
Confusion and chaos often precede profound innovation.
Not feeling good enough for someone. Who hasn't felt this way at some point?
Here is my understanding about this.
When we are carrying an insecurity about ourselves, we may experience others as not accepting us.
This can result as patterns of conflict with others or of trying to please them. This is very common but keeps us trapped in a painful and draining situation.
You can watch for any time you want to prove something to someone or get them to accept you in some way.
When you spot it happening: Stop. Breathe. Breathe slowly and deeply. And instead of focusing on the other person, explore your inner world (thoughts, emotions, sensations).
You can take this even further by exploring with an intention to see the Truth.
If you can manage to make this shift in focus, if you can withstand the initial force of resistance, before you even get to an insight, you will already feel a huge shift. You will likely feel energized.
I call this INNER EMPOWERMENT.
People are incredible reflections of what we need to understand within.
This does not mean we allow ourselves to be mistreated all over the place. This is not contrary to speaking up and not allowing someone to impose their judgments or views on us. In fact, it may lead to doing just that. Not as a hurt-based reaction, but out of a self-respect for ourselves.
Seems paradoxical, but the inner focus makes us kinder and more honest. We become trustworthy. Because we minimize burdening others with our pain. Our hearts can open in the recognition that others are struggling too and that it has nothing to do with us personally.
I've experienced this countless times.
But at first I would beat myself up. Feeling bad that I was doing something wrong to draw to me negative reflections and dynamics.
But with time more joy and self-compassion has come in. And with experience I know the consequences of not doing it and the incredible awe-inspiring gifts of doing it.
If you want support and are in Kansas City this November, Madeleine Newkirk and I are leading a Communicate with Your Heart workshop. See if it speaks to you.
Leela Haris - Expanding Consciousness