Self-Love & Narcissism

 So what is the difference between self-love and narcissism?

I see them as existing in different universes, that's how different they are.

Narcissism is superiority. Superiority is based on comparison, competition, and insecurity. It is looking outward for who we are. It is needing to prove something.

It is a temporary compensation for the painful feeling of smallness deep down.

Superiority is there only because somewhere inside there is inferiority. Two sides to the same coin.

We come out of this painful game when we change direction and start looking within to transform the root of what is making us feel small or needing to prove anything.  

This is not a “fake it till you make it” kinda thing. Not at all.  Do we need yet another facade to hide behind? No, I don’t think so.

The first step is to be honest with ourselves about how we really feel.

It’s tricky because we don’t actually need to be taught how to LOVE ourselves. How to TRUST ourselves. How GOOD we are. How POWERFUL we are. How BIG we are. How MAGICAL we are.  (but role models and facilitators are a huge help).

We were born already knowing this. 

We just have to UNLEARN what we were taught. We need to see through and undo all the lies. All that we took on during our time here on this planet.




A technique to transform the root of insecurities:
Dalian Method sessions by Lila
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