“Words have Energy” This is very true, and I’ve discovered that it’s not just the words by themselves but the energy that comes through them from the one who expresses them.
The exact same statement made by two different people can have a very different meaning and essence (or even when said at different times by the same person).
For example: Let’s say that I have triggered anger in two people and they both express to me “I’m angry”
“I’m angry” Person #1
This person says they are angry because they are just honestly expressing the truth of what they are experiencing. This one is rare but one I like to receive, because it is honest, courageous, and vulnerable even if it challenges me. They are allowing their anger, exploring it, letting it live, taking kind care of it. They are honoring themselves. They are not trying to manipulate or harm or blame with it. This can even result in me feeling a flowing of compassion towards them.
“I’m angry Person ” #2
This person’s “I’m angry” is very different. It can energetically feel to me something similar to a stab in my heart or being hit with an object. I might suddenly have negative thoughts out of nowhere. I might feel weak or drained. This person is blaming me, judging me, or even feeling hatred towards me at that moment. They are making me responsible for their feelings. This person is unwilling or unable to honor or care for themselves in that experience. They may even carry self-hatred or shame and therefore project that on me instead of finding a way to get support or help themselves. They may even tell me “I’m just expressing my truth” but I can feel inside myself whether that’s the intent or not.
So same statement, but two very different worlds happening behind them! I separated these into two categories but in reality it could be a mix of the two and could contain many things. For example on #2 I might sense that the person believes they are not free to live as they choose and are angry at me for living in a way they believe they aren’t capable of (which is not ultimately true, but related to limiting beliefs they carry).
Another example: “I love you”
“I love you” #1
The person is saying this as a spontaneous sharing of the love that is arising for them in that moment. It’s not said with unconscious unspoken expectations (this can be vulnerable for them since the person hearing them may not share the same feeling or may reject it)
“I love you” #2
This person may say “I love you” but it might just be said out of habit (i’ve been working on this one myself) or because it’s expected. or because they want to hear it from the other. They may be needing attention and love rather than actually feeling that love within themselves. It might be loaded with pain, craving, or even demand. This can feel heavy or draining.
These are just examples and it could easily have a bit of both: sincerity/honesty and expectation/dishonesty.
I notice that if I have a strong attachment or association with certain words I can miss the energy and intention they come from (my mind/emotions getting in the way).
I’ve been very much exploring these things first and always in myself. I only know the "people" in these examples because I have been them too.
It's been fulfilling and heart-expanding though as I step out of the inauthentic patterning of my past to more truthful, grounded, and self-responsible expressions in the here & now.
This a big topic and I've only just scratched the surface here, but what's your experience with this?
Would love to receive it in the comments.
My father had a brief stay in the hospital once (it turned out to be nothing serious).
Several of us were visiting and had gathered around him as he rested in his hospital bed. He and my young nephew were hungry so someone brought some burgers and fries.
While eating my father offered my little nephew one of his fries. My nephew instinctively and gleefully took it and gobbled it up.
My nephew's father (my brother), alarmed at this, said to him:
“No No, don't take grandpa's food. You have your own."
Even though he was just simply accepting a gift that was joyfully & freely offered to him.
A few moments later, ignoring my brother's lecture, grandpa offers him another fry.
This time my nephew raises his hand and waves it in objection and says "no, I can't take it".
My brother beamed in pride at seeing this and there was a moment of admiration in the room about how kind and good my nephew is.
But as I watched this unfold I knew my little innocent nephew wasn't truly BEING kind, he was following the orders he was given for how to behave. It wasn't coming from his heart's truth.
He wanted the fry but learned in that moment how to act differently.
This is how most of our human population is. We experience many moments like my nephew that shape us to act a certain way. With time we start to believe the act is who we are.
We then expect and ask others to act accordingly too.
Many are also like my brother, trying to raise a good child. Maybe even a good christian who believes in and follows god. They want their children to be a force of something good and an example of what they believe is right. Perhaps also wanting them to get to heaven someday.
But in our programmed "good behavior", in our false humbleness and "niceness", we are far from our innate goodness, God is farthest from us in those times. Because God is what we are, when we are BEING what we are.
I have been where my nephew is, trying to survive in this upside-down world. I have been the others in the room admiring "how sweet he is" and I have so often been my brother, passing down my belief & control patterns to vulnerable ones.
GOD was already there, saying YES to the french fry.
Leela Haris - Expanding Consciousness